Mothers Day – Feeling Guilty?
By Ann Zeise and Carol Moxley
Another Mother’s Day. This homeschooling mom can’t help wondering if her family truly appreciates and understands the direction she has chosen for her life. Sometimes a bit of guilt seeps into her otherwise positive outlook: could she have done more?
I know what I want for Mother’s Day!
I want my son to give me a big hug and tell me how glad he is to spend his days with me, that he really doesn’t mind spending his days with his mom. That would assuage the guilt I feel that he’d rather be spending his days with other kids.
And from my husband I want a big hug and to hear that he doesn’t really mind being the sole bread winner for this household, that he still finds me interesting and is proud of the way his son has learned and mastered skills. This would assuage the guilt I feel about not being a ‘mover and a shaker’ out in the Silicon Valley rat race making tons of money — even if I could. This would assuage my guilt feelings about the skills my son has not yet learned and mastered.
From my mom I want a big hug and to hear that my son’s helpfulness, politeness and cheerfulness are all she needs. This would assuage the guilt I feel when he does commit a breech of etiquette.
I want my older daughter to give me a big hug and tell her younger brother that he’s turning out “cool” even though his experiences aren’t the same as what she went though as a teenager. This would assuage my guilt that I didn’t homeschool her.
I want my uncle to give me a big hug and to tell me that Boy Scout rank and badge requirements make a fine curriculum. After all, it worked for him! This would assuage my guilt feelings that these requirements are about the only structure in our homeschool.
And from each of you reading this, especially you kids, teens, father and other relatives, I want a little note telling me how this feature helped you make mom feel a little less guilty and a lot more appreciated not only on Mother’s Day, but on any day. I miss you.
Here are some features and net links to help make each and every day Mother’s Day for Mom.
What do you call it when a homeschool mom talks to herself?
You’ve got to click through to get the answer to this riddle!
You Know You’re A Homeschool Mom When…
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Avoiding Homeschool Burnout
Nearly every homeschooling mom interviewed has, at one time or another, found herself at the end of her rope. By Isabel Shaw.
Living Joyfully With Children
I keep saying Win and Bill Sweet’s mantra to myself: maximize freedom and success, minimize fear and failure. I figure I can’t go wrong!
Do you vacillate between child-led, developmentally appropriate, interest-initiated unschooling on one hand, and traditional, structured, academic-based education on the other? Diane Keith pokes fun at our mood swings.
Mother’s Day Gifts
This kindergarten site has some good ideas for gifts small children can make for their mother.
On American Motherhood
by Theodore Roosevelt, March 13, 1905. A speech given by President Roosevelt in Washington on March 13, 1905, before the National Congress of Mothers. [Editor’s note: Placed here for contrast.]