Stop thinking schoolishly. Stop acting teacherishly. Stop talking about learning as though it's separate from life. ~ Sandra Dodd.
Relax, enjoy your family, and let learning come to you naturally. Don’t force it.
Depending on how long your child has been in the school system, and how devastated they are from the experience, take several weeks to several months from doing anything remotely resembling school activities. Some compare this “deschooling” time like they would summer break. Allow your child to do things they can do easily at first. Do activities that are familiar. Quietly read books by authors and about topics they enjoy, at a pace they can live with, and no forced book reports. Every kid likes to eat, so help them learn to prepare family meals, from scrambling eggs to making spaghetti sauce. Help them learn to use equipment you already have around the house, from the laundry to the tools. Maybe there is a “class” they want to take, but let it be their idea to sign up for a new sport or join a photography club or dance lessons, etc. New interests and talents will appear, almost like magic. One interest will lead to another, and another. As a parent, you’ll just have to keep up with all the learning going on! You are doing exactly right if you are just the wallet and the wheels!
All Right, You’ve Made the Decision to Homeschool. Now What?
Deschooling. Your kids not trying to drive you nuts. Rather, they’re unconsciously letting you know they need time to decompress. To flush that unhappy part out of their system, take a long deep breath, and get their confidence back.
Deschooling for Parents
Stop thinking schoolishly. Stop acting teacherishly. Stop talking about learning as though it’s separate from life. By Sandra Dodd.
by Tammy Takahashi
Deschooling Gently will help you whether you are new to homeschooling, or if you are experienced, but are in need of new approaches. Discover the best way to educate your children at home, not through rote process, but by learning how to find the answer within yourself. This plan will provide confidence to trust your own educational decisions, a clear understanding of your children’s needs and how to meet them, the ability to make calm and wise decisions about your children’s education, a solid footing for starting the homeschool journey, and most importantly – concrete ideas on what to do now to make your transition to homeschooling smooth and painless.
by Ivan Illich
This is a heartfelt series of essays that illuminate the nature of learning and the perverse consequences of professionally imposed schooling requirements. Education is merely the author’s proving ground for one simple premise: it is the nature of the institution to produce the opposite of itself. This basic paradigm may be applied to any institutionalized need.
The “deschooling” idea comes from this essay by Ivan Illich. Deep, philosophical essay, but essential reading to truly understand homeschooling.
Deschooling: What is and why would you want to deschool your kids?
Deschooling is a process of getting your previously public schooled children out of the old school routine. You want to get them out of the habit of having a teacher, homework, only one way of doing things, testings, and all that other public school stuff.
From School to Homeschool: What is Deschooling?
Deschooling is the adjustment period a child goes through when leaving school and beginning homeschooling. To really get the benefits of homeschooling, a child has to decompress and disconnect from “school” being the default and “school ways” being the standard expectation.
How to Deschool So You Can Unschool
Avoid all things school. Categorize everything into subjects. Learn something new. Give it time.
Homeschooling 101: Why We Do It
NPR did a three-part series about homeschooling in February 2001. Here you can read and listen to these family’s stories.
My Homeschooling Mistakes
Parents who are new to homeschooling share certain characteristics. They want to provide a great education for their children, and they are willing to go that extra mile for them. However, they’re also very uncertain – if not actually terrified – about the homeschooling road that lies ahead. By Isabel Shaw.
Parental Deschooling: Finding Your Non-School Normal
As many of my school-teacher-turned-homeschooler friends have pointed out to me over the years, one of the hardest things about transitioning to homeschooling as a parent is getting out of the school mindset.
What is Deschooling?
Give yourselves time to adjust to the freedom of no school routines (stay up late and sleep in!); the freedom of not being told what to do every minute of the day. Everyone has lots of time now to relax and unwind, to try new things. To discover their interests and rediscover the joy of learning!